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Do you love what you do?

Posted in Journal, Musings, Writing with tags , on 21/05/2011 by Jen Healey

Being a woman who has had a couple of babies, I have been afforded the luxury of having months away from work and returning to the same job with an (almost) fresh set of eyes.  Also, given the challenging nature of my job, I have colleagues who are no strangers to negativity, burn out and a quite remarkable level of cynicism.  Some days I agree with them, others I really don’t, and most of the time I think some of them really need some significant time away from work.  For the benefit of their own sanity and to gain some clarity and perspective, as I have had.  If they really feel the way they say they do, then it really isn’t healthy for them to steep themselves in an environment that makes them feel that way every (working) day.  I am aware that if I had only my work I would quite easily slip into the same downward spiral of thinking that life is shit and would probably go back to my old habits of smoking, drinking wine and eating too much chocolate (okay, so I still eat too much chocolate, but 2 out of 3 ‘ain’t bad!). 

I’ll admit that my old ‘passion’ for the job did not last long past being qualified.  Now that is not to say that I am someone who doesn’t care at all about my job, I do care about doing it well and helping people to cope with their mental health problems.  But it is not what I am passionate about and I don’t love it the way I did a (very) long time ago.  Which does make me a little sad, but, more worryingly, I’m concerned that if I do pursue a career in something I love to do, will that enthusiasm and enjoyment I feel for it now be squashed too?  If so, I wonder, is it a good idea to do what you love for a living?  I don’t want to lose those feelings I have for reading and writing, so am I risking losing something I love to do by recommencing my writing course and planning to do a proof-reading course (a 30th birthday present that is waiting for me to finish the first one)?  I want to do what I love for a living and love what I do.  Also, I really don’t see myself being a psych nurse for the rest of my working days. 

Actually, I think that the saddest thing is that I don’t know anyone who has turned their hobbies into their livelihood, I don’t think.  Unless that is the key to keeping balanced?  Work a job that is ‘just a job’, but have your real interests as a hobby that keeps you sane as you work a job that is… less than enjoyable.  That may sound like unrealistic, pie-in-the-sky idealism, the idea that you can do something you love and get paid for it, but if you don’t aim for it, what is there to look forward to?  Retirement?  (I don’t have that kind of patience!  And, who knows if I’ve even got that kind of time!)  In one respect I feel very fortunate indeed, that I actually have some activity in my life that I am passionate about and enjoy.  I can’t tell you how many people I see, in a professional capacity, that don’t even have the first clue as to what they like to do with their time.  Spending their lives, doing not much more than, looking so hard at the problem that they can’t see any possible solutions, usually with little company. 

Again, I am fortunate that my hubby is a very proactive person who encourages me to pursue my interests, join Meetup and start a group of our own, start an online bookshop, play the piano and get going with my writing practice and study.  With him around, and my lovely babies, I’m too busy to be bothered with getting (too) grumpy about my job, or with those ‘Negative Nellies’ that I work with.  To be fair they probably feel that they are being realistic (which they are a lot of the time), but I think that they could probably do with shifting their focus once in a while.  We are all well aware of the problems facing the service and individual clinicians thankyou, but would prefer it if the day was more than just a gripe-fest.  I don’t see why you can’t hope to enjoy your job, I do, I hope for it everyday.  Again, I want to love what I do and do what I love, which is to write.  Why the hell not?

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We’ve taken the plunge!

Posted in Supe-para-natural with tags , on 04/05/2011 by Jen Healey

Inspired by the lovely ladies at sew make believe and our long-held interest in the paranormal, my hubby and I have started a meetup group!  We’re super excited about this and would love for you lovely people to check it out and even join up if you’re interested too.  It’s here The Warwickshire Ghosthunters.

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