Archive for July, 2012

How to Reduce Stress & Take Care of Yourself

Posted in Journal, Mental Morsels with tags , , on 21/07/2012 by Jen Healey

Hi there,

I’ve had this bit of paper (with the above title) stashed in various drawers and folders for what must be years now.  I encounter it occasionally, think to myself ‘I really must share this on my blog’, then file it carefully away.  Eventually I’ll get sick of seeing it, so I thought I’d finally pull my finger out and copy it out here, now.

  2. Work no more than ten hours a day.
  3. Have at least one and half days a week free from normal work routine.
  4. Plan one ‘away from it all’ holiday each year.
  5. Allow at least 30 minutes for each meal.
  6. Eat slowly and chew well.
  7. Examine your eating habits and balance your diet.
  8. Cultivate the habit of listening to relaxing music.
  9. Practise relaxation or meditation twice a day (or better still three times) for at least 15 minutes at a time.
  10. Find a ‘hermit’ spot.  Use it daily and do not allow interruptions.
  11. Take at least TEN minutes daily for physical exercise, preferably in the open air.
  12. Have a regular massage or join a yoga class.
  13. Cultivate a creative, non-competitive hobby, and spend time on it – e.g. gardening, painting, making music, etc.
  14. Actively cultivate the habit of walking, talking and moving at a slower pace.
  15. Smile and respond cheerfully whenever meeting anyone.
  16. Remind yourself that you are an ENABLER, not a magician.  You can only change how you relate to people; you cannot change THEM.
  17. Caring and being there is sometimes more important than doing.  Admit you feel helpless when you do.
  18. Give support to others and learn to accept it in return.
  19. If emotional and/or sexual relationships are upsetting, seek advice.
  20. If you are unhappy at work, take stock and look at choices – i.e. retraining, new areas of work, job agencies etc.
  21. Avoid the tendency to dwell on the past.  Concentrate on the present.
  22. Express your feelings openly, without antagonism or hostility.
  23. Finish one task before moving onto another.
  24. Do not accept, or give yourself, unrealistic deadlines.  Do what is most urgent today, and leave the rest until tomorrow.
  25. Vary your routine as often as practicable.
  26. Say “thank you” to yourself whenever you have finished something that you feel satisfied with.
  27. Before you go to sleep, remember THREE good things that have happened during the day.
  28. Use supervision or the ‘buddy system’ regularly as a source of support, assurance and re-direction.
  29. Avoid ‘shop’ talk during breaks and when socialising with colleagues.
  30. Say “I choose…” rather than “I should, ought or have to…” Say “I won’t…” rather than “I can’t…
  31. Accept responsibility for your life.
  32. If you never say “No”, what is “Yes” worth?

Okay, some of these are pretty unrealistic, ‘have a regular massage’ etc.  Who has time or money for that?!  If you do, don’t rub it in!!

But on taking the time to really read through it, I may actually pop it on the side of my fridge, as it makes some rather useful (if challenging) points.

Quickly, before I forget, as I have the brain of a cheese sandwich at the moment.  Check this link (Nic) for some awesome film merch (better late than never) –


I love the horror T-Shirts, hubby got this Zombieland one for Father’s Day, along with a gift adoption of this wolf.  Spoilt boy!  He’s a great Dad though, so he deserves a present from each of our babies.

Have a good weekend y’all x



I’m taking it back…

Posted in Comedy Genius, Journal, Musings with tags on 06/07/2012 by Jen Healey

Yesterday I wore a dress that I haven’t worn since I was last at work, about a year ago.  It is pretty much the only item of ‘work clothing’ that I didn’t donate to the British Heart Foundation.  I just haven’t wanted to wear anything that I associate with ‘that place’, as I found it uncomfortable.  I’d bought/ordered said clothes purely for work purposes, as they were smart/semi-casual and made me feel kinda professional whilst still retaining a little personality (mainly due to the fact that I wore boots with them – not my gorgeous New Rock ones).  However, they weren’t ‘me’ and were just a reminder of a time and place that I cannot return to, nor would want to in all honesty.

The dress that I wore yesterday is a bit colourful for my taste, as I obviously prefer to wear black with black and more black.  But it was quite nice to feel a bit smart-ish for one day.  I didn’t want to embarrass my daughter at her school production, an extended version of the show she did in Stratford on her birthday, that I sweated through last night.  The school hall was positively cloying!  And they made us all dance the Lambada – urgh!

I intend to keep and wear the dress again, as I quite like it.  So I’m taking it back –

Oh yes, I do actually wear dresses on occasion, believe it or not.


Happy 4th of July Y’all!

Posted in Journal with tags , on 04/07/2012 by Jen Healey

Here’s wishing friends across the pond a Happy 4th of July!  I hope it’s a great day for you, your friends and families!

I’d really love to hear how you are celebrating, or not, today – please comment to share your stories x

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In a Rush

Posted in Music with tags , on 02/07/2012 by Jen Healey

It’s been a while since we talked music and I’m in the grip of a mild music obsession with Rush.  So let’s visit with them shall we?

YouTube abuse alert!  Please excuse the stupid flippin adverts.

This post will be mostly vids yoinked from YouTube, but it is the best way to share my perspective on a truly awesome band.

I am in the process of discovering the genius of this band beyond the epic song ‘The Spirit of Radio’ –

A song that has been in and out of my life since my early teens, but I never explored any of their other material, until now.

If you prefer the perfection of the album version – here it is, with the fab lyrics.

I could not believe that Rush completely consists of three guys – just three!  Amazing!  Did you check out that drum kit?!

I bagged a bargain the other day in Leamington Spa, buying one of their albums (Time Stand Still – collection) for a meagre £4!  It is ace!  The first track is ‘The Spirit of Radio’, which is worth the purchase price alone, in my humble opinion.  I agree heartily with Jack Black (love him or hate him) who makes a very good point here –

I don’t know what he’s doing with his hand!  Ah well, he is at least able to recognise the quality of both the music and lyrics.

Other songs that I am unable to stop listening to are :

Tom Sawyer –

Album version.

You’ve gotta love a band that doesn’t take itself too seriously, including South Park in your concert, that definitely counts.

Freewill –

Album version. 

Time Stand Still –

Yes, yes, the video is tres tragic, but it was the eighties and I think the song more than makes up for the bad vid.  However, in this case, I would actually recommend listening to the album version!

Apologies to those of you who do not share my opinion on Rush, as an opinion, it is of course subjective.  I would say, however, that the musical ability of these guys cannot be in question.  They have been a major influence in the world of rock music, and probably beyond.  I have much more research and listening to do to catch up on the years of music I have missed.

I’m looking forward to it.


Posted in Journal, Mental Morsels with tags , on 02/07/2012 by Jen Healey

After taking the test from Rachel‘s blog on left-right brain balance, I am happy to find that I am slightly more right brain dominant.  The results from this test are in the sidebar, just to the right -> along with the link for you to take the test too if you like?  It’s a bit of fun.

Have a good day y’all x

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