Archive for June, 2012

Bye Nursing!

Posted in Journal, Mental Morsels with tags , on 27/06/2012 by Jen Healey

Today, being the 27th of June 2012, I am no longer employed by the NHS and have been retired from the world of Mental Health Nursing.  An occupation that I have given 12 years of my life to, that includes the 3 years training and 2 periods of maternity leave.  During that time I have worked in Psychiatric Rehabilitation, Acute Psychiatric Inpatient Care (including PICU), Crisis Resolution Home Treatment Team and Community Mental Health Nursing.  We have had our ups and downs, Nursing and I, which evokes some mixed emotions today.  I know in my heart that I gave it my best, and didn’t do too bad I don’t think, but it is time we parted ways.  Experiences, frustrations and elations, that I had are unforgettable and have taught me many, many things.  Interesting, enchanting and challenging personalities and people from every walk of life, I have worked with them all to help alleviate the terrible effects of mental distress.  They have shared their deepest, darkest and kookiest secrets with me, in their homes and in hospital.  There have been many, many overdoses, physical damage inflicted and even deaths.  Situations stranger than fiction, truly bizarre happenings and anecdotes.  But, also, there have been happy times, supporting new mothers with depression, who made it through to enjoy and love their children.  Laughing so hard with clients and colleagues alike, not to mention enjoying too many cheeky takeaways!  I have bumped into people, that I had met in the most dreadful situations and having experienced terrible trauma and abuse, but they were once again well, had triumphed against horrors (and even said a precious thank you here and there) which was lovely.

I will remember some of them, and probably wonder how they are doing, forever I’m sure.

I wish all the people I have worked with, nursed and met during these years well for their futures, as I embark on the next chapter of mine.

Farewell to you my clients, colleagues and carers!  Take good care of each other, be honest to others (and yourselves) and remember to smile and laugh as much as you can.

I’ll remember you all in therapy…




Happy Birthday Bambina!

Posted in Journal with tags on 22/06/2012 by Jen Healey

Today (22/06/12) my beautiful little girl turned 7!  How did that happen?  I have a 7-year-old daughter, who makes me so proud everyday that she is the awesome little angel that flew into my life seven years ago… well I say flew, those 18 hours in induced labour did not feel like they flew!  She asked me the other day, at bedtime, if it hurt having babies.  Not being someone who likes to lie to anyone, least of all my children, I said “Yes it does”.  But, being the sensitive little soul she is, I obviously was not about to elaborate further.  So you can imagine my relief when she didn’t ask for any other details.  Instead she said “Did it hurt when you had me Mummy?”, to which I replied truthfully, “Yes, but you were worth it… a thousand times over”.  I’m sharing this, not to elicit any praise, but to illustrate that no matter what parents go through for their children, they are worth it.

This will have to be my mantra when I’m surrounded by noisy, excited children on Sunday, at the dreaded birthday party.  Urgh.  Like I said though, she’s worth it.  This will be the second birthday party that has involved inviting the whole of my daughter’s class at school.  At least I don’t have food to organise or a venue to have to clean up afterwards.  I am also very fortunate in that the party is a joint party with a little boy, who was 6 today.  His mother has been a huge help in the organising of the party.  She has also been thoughtful in telling me about school-type stuff like school trip requirements for yesterday and non-uniform day today.  These are little things that are easy to forget, especially when you’re a busy, sleep-deprived mum who has been taking care of her daughter with chicken pox for a week.  Thank goodness the spots scabbed over in time for my little girl to go on her school trip yesterday and to her In2Cultures dance/show this evening.  Tomorrow she/we are going to collect her birthday cake and then go to the school fete (worse than death).  Followed by the big event on Sunday.  She is going to be sooo tired Sunday night.  I’m tired already just thinking about all the activities.

Better go to bed.

Wishing you all a good weekend x

Another Re-blog

Posted in Mental Morsels with tags on 20/06/2012 by Jen Healey

This is such an insightful and inspiring blog post. Check out the blog too.

Emotional Wellness

To the Bully,

You scared me. You belittled me. You made me feel inferior, like a slave. I spent far too much of my time trying to please you in order to gain your approval. I didn’t realise that you didn’t give a shit about me. I worried and fretted about your anger, aggression and spite. I didn’t understand that there are people in the world who are only out for themselves. You were so skilled at pretending to be someone’s friend and then stabbing them in the back.

You raged and shouted- blaming your whole sorry existence and misery on a few of us gentle ones. I thought I wasn’t good enough, but it was you who projected this onto me. You are filled with rage and pain. I felt it every time I was in a room with you- you loved to share it out with us. I…

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OK… so I’m being unoriginal today

Posted in Journal, Musings with tags on 15/06/2012 by Jen Healey

The goodreads quote of the day today was this:

Quote of the Day> June 15, 2012


Allen Ginsberg

“Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.”  ―    Allen Ginsberg
Pretty cool…

Posted in Mental Morsels with tags on 15/06/2012 by Jen Healey

The thoughts here on being hard on ourselves I found to be incredibly insightful and helpful – Thank you Rachel for having the guts to write so openly, intelligently and honestly. I just wanted to share it with my readers – I hope you don’t mind x

Emotional Wellness

I think a common theme popping up in those of us with Bipolar (and probably depression, anxiety, OCD and Borderline Personality Disorder too) is that we’re really tough on ourselves and seem to set way higher standards for ourselves than others. We’re also damn mean to ourselves: you wouldn’t tell your best friend she had a fat butt and looked damn ugly! OK, I’m sure we do this unconsciously, but maybe we could become more aware of it and challenge it a bit.

Today I got all geared up to take Cassie out for a walk. We set out on our usual route and within the first 5 minutes it began tipping down with rain. We were totally drenched so I decided to take her back and walk her later.

When we got home, my partner made a joke saying sarcastically- “that was a long walk then”. He meant it…

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How old????

Posted in Journal, Musings with tags on 08/06/2012 by Jen Healey

I’m 31 years old, I own (but don’t wear) a partial denture, have adult-onset diabetes and am about to be retired… I am 31, honest.  Apologies to those of you who are reading this about me and I haven’t told you in person, I’ve been a little preoccupied with the whole process.  What a process it is, being retired, I can’t wait until it is over and done with and I can say farewell nursing – for good.

Mental health nursing has been a pretty significant chapter of my life, so far, one that needs a conclusion before I start the next.  It is in sight now, which in all honesty is a relief.  It wasn’t all bad, but I don’t think that it has been good for me.  It is a path that I actually regret going down.  Yes regret is something that, I have heard it said, is useless and ‘you should have no regrets’.  I disagree.  Without regret, how do we learn from our mistakes?  Not just learn from them, but really learn from them, remember them and not repeat them.

There is much I have learnt, but so much more I have to learn, elsewhere.  Even if I have to feel like I’m about a hundred years old!  I hope dementia doesn’t set in…


P.s. I’ve just finished watching series 5 of Dexter, Nic you were right, he doesn’t disappoint! Love, love, love the Dex!

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